I try really hard to be the kind of person, public presence, etc... that when really hard stuff between generally good people that are struggling comes up in a private group and yet somehow the attention turns to me when I step into allow people to take a breath, that I don't go public and nuclear, even if the person or people who decided "no, it is YOU who are the problem here" do.

Today, however, is challenging, and I don't know if I'm going to hold to my own goals as a person.

We (@ToniaThomas and I) decided to donate to:
- Transgender Education Network of Texas (transtexas.org)
- Organización Latina Trans Texas (latinatranstexas.org)

If you're not sure how you can help and can donate, consider those orgs.

If anyone here is attending () this week and wants to throw down a game, let me and/or @tonia know!

So I adopted a 17 year old cat and a 4.5mo. old kitten and two months later they are literally running around the house with shoelaces chasing each other.

My 16 year old "og" cat is intrigued but not participating.

It's still amazing to watch.


Mourn the dead; fight like hell for the living.

I kind of want to do a "Lets Play" streaming series for the entire Wing Commander series.

My desire to change, my need to justify this to myself, is real and here and I need to acknowledge it.

Do I tell everyone they should join our discord and make it mostly public but wotj private and incentivized areas?

Do I consider youtube or twitch streaming?

I don't know, but staying a podcast that relies on word of mouth doesn't work for me anymore. I'm either all in on connecting with people here to make a difference or...

I'm not.

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I'm less connected to my Chicago communities because I wanted (and still do) to just be me, a normal person, who is loved and judges on my relationships with people here and my actions and words here and not just reputation or past work or what I do at events or elsewhere.

I want to be me. A guy without a pseudonym who loves and respects and desires and lusts and works with and enjoys... and occasionally disagrees with and dislikes and is disappointed in people.

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Private discussions, public discussions, it'a all good... but it's on my mind because if we aren't making a true positive difference in an increasing way it's not something I want to devote real time and passion to.

I know we've made, and make a huge difference, but I need to make decisions on how I spend my time based on family needs, financial needs, and honestly... the needs of my community.

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I'm finally coming around to thinking about the podcast, as a platform, hasn't really evolved with respect to true engagement with people that listen, care, and just as importantly...

would listen and care if they knew we existed and that what we do has real value.

we've enjoyed enormous word of mouth support and attention from appearances worldwide but due to multiple reasons that hit -before- covid-19 and the uprising, our "discoverability waned".

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