Schedules and Neighbors
I'm cranky I should put that up front.
So we're apartment living and not used to having downstairs neighbors. They own a tiny but good Chinese place across the street and get home late from shutting down the restaurant and then they are incredibly loud. It's seriously messing with my ability to sleep at night and driving me insane. I am by necessity (not choice) a morning person and 5:30 comes early. I need to figure out how to manage this so I can sleep.
I don't normally use this outlet to talk about stuff I actually am involved in but this article hits home for me. Please Stop using helium balloons. "Overall, balloons are the highest-risk debris item; 32 times more likely to result in death than ingesting hard plastic. "
Burgundy. Please, God, tell me I have not inspired something burgundy.
"Red. Red. *Red*. *Red*, Charlie boy. *Red*! Is the color of sex! Burgundy is the color of hot water bottles! Red is the color of sex and fear and danger and signs that say, Do. Not. Enter. All my favorite things in life."
This brought to you by my allergy to red makeup. So I have to sit here doing skin tests so that my SO can have red makeup that she likes to wear.
The Secret Ball
We can't make any of the Just for Dinner events prior to it. So while we got an invite we can't attend. I am somewhat torn about the kind of criteria used to limit attendance. On one hand it's about eliminating Missing Stairs which is something worth doing. On the other hand it has a secondary impact of limiting diversity which I don't like at all. I wish this kind of thing was available to a broad spectrum and at the same time kicking the missing stairs to the curb.
Saying No to people
I so hate saying no to people. I am bad at it. I'm having to say no a lot right now. We're fresh meat in the local non-monogamy world and people are all over contacting us. A few interesting people but a lot of No, sometimes for reasons that I really don't want to explain but I've been asked twice to explain the no and that makes me sick to my stomach. Sometimes it's for pure vanity, sometimes its just because not for either of us for whatever reason.
How to meet more people IRL?
My SO calls me a "shy extrovert." I am totally energized by being around people but in person it takes me forever to meet people because overall I'm shy until I get to know people.
So... I'm open to suggestions. Giving Meetup a shot. There's a cycling group on there. Cycling isn't exactly a hobby that involves a lot of interaction though. RP Game groups tend to be kind of meh. So uh political groups for the win? This isn't going to end well is it?
If I hadn't had such a fantastic MD in California I'm not sure I'd know how much I want another MD like him. Finding a new one isn't easy. There really needs to be a better system for searching for doctors. Basically every website I've gone over is terrible. The various rating systems out there ignore what people are interested in knowing and the reviews face the same problems that places like YELP face (only people who hate you or love you give reviews so it's skewed as all can be).
NSFW: Mood Lighting
So when we moved I went out and put smart lights in our new apartment. They really let you set the mood in a lot of ways. My SO went out to a fashion design show tonight and when she got home I'd set the lights to turn the bedroom blue. Put blue satin sheets on the bed and accented it with black bondage restraints. Had a themed playlist set to spotify feeding into the blue tooth speakers and covered her with honey dust and did unspeakable things. I like living in future.
Just Life Update
New work is alright. I could do it with my eyes closed. I will need to target advancement or... move on but for now a two income household is something we haven't had in 7 years so I'm not complaining.
Offspring(s) have the best insurance we've had ... ever. The credit cards will recover from the move when the reimbursement gets to us. We have twice the space we had in CA and that's amazing. SO is slowly adjusting to not being a PhD student. Now to just find community.
I got off the phone with our kid's school where the secretary was frustrated because she couldn't get through to his mother... All of the paperwork clearly says First Call Father. Not that calling her is a bad thing, just that her job has her in meetings a large percentage of the day where as I sit either in my lab or at a computer and picking up the phone is no big deal. Clearly the mother is who they needed to make sure our son could tour his new classroom though and not me...
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