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Sexuality 

Origin story:
·Interest in sex from age 5
·Cheated on 1st "real" love / Terrified of being trapped forever / craved variety
·Adventurous adolescence, confused with depression / self-destructiveness
·Settled into serial monogamy, determined bisexuality
·Obtained abusive boyfriend to confirm how shameful I had been
·Left, had slightly adventurous mid-20s. 3sums yay!
·Interest in Swinging mentioned to ex-hub before we became exclusive shot down immediately.
·Passionless decade ensued.

Anal play (text only) 

Re-capping this afternoon he said he really liked it and said it felt great but it was weird because, "You're not supposed to like it." So it's interesting, as awesome as we are doing, to hear old programming creep in like that, putting a damper on our joy.

I quite dislike digitally penetrating other women and myself... But if there's any chance of pushing that button (the pleasure one, not the gay-transformer one) I'll glove-up, lube-up and step-up.

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Anal play (text only) 

Trying to jerk him off at the same time was awkward so he took-over but even still he was losing his erection, so I moved on to blowing him just a little and then riding him. I had trouble cumming because I'd been drinking but I had just started my period so my pussy was super slippery and everything felt awesome. I get very self conscious in cowgirl (even drunk!) so we traded spots and finished in missionary. He beat me but I wasn't far behind. We both finished the race.

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He was standing up in the kitchen and I started started playing with him from behind. He has the tiniest bum but it's a nice shape with a perky little bounce, I knelt behind him and gave him a bit of a rusty trombone, asked if it was ok. He said it felt nice so I offered to do it better if he wanted to lay down on the couch. He reclined in the corner of the 'L' shape and I knelt in front of him, and ate out his asshole. I was mindful of his no-penetration boundary.

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Anal play (text only) 

Partner has been helping me explore pleasures and expand my sexuality... Maybe my desire to experiment and successes are inspiring him to rethink the strictness of own yeses and noes.

I never even saw my ex-husband's asshole. I'm a little bit shy about them, like not looking at naked people in the locker room. You politely pretend its not there.

So, last night I looked my partner's cornhole straight in the eye, and I fell I love.

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Anal play (text only) 

Because, sing it with me!
🎶Tooooxic masc-u-linnnnn-ity🎵🎼

If something goes in a dude's butt it makes him gay, right? That's what that secret button really activates! Homosexuality mode!

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Anal play (text only) 

I trusted Partner enough to start exploring. I realised I liked it. I could watch anal I porn and be turned on rather than disgusted. 180°
We've had anal sex a few times and I quite like it. It doesn't always work no matter how much I want it, but when it does... Hoo boy!

So then... What about someone who has a prostate? A secret pleasure button up in there just waiting to be pressed? Why limit your experiences? If I could go from a nonono to a yesyesyes, why couldn't he?

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Anal play (text only) 

I'm so excited that Partner let me toss his salad last night!
We've been together for 2.5yrs. Butt stuff was a hard no for me at the beginning, fingers or anything.
I did not think women actually enjoyed it, I thought it was all about the man using a new hole. I hated seeing anal in porn. I was sure it was painful and I felt bad for the woman.
I read, watched videos and talked to my friend who loves anal, and I became interested.

Racism, Stubborn Ignorance 

My life is largely drama-free but I find myself drama-adjacent... And it tickles me sometimes to see how people battle themselves, stuck in closed-minded beliefs, limited by valueless priorities. And I don't feel any anxiety about a sense of duty to make e eryone see the light or what I consider right. They'll get it when and if they are ready and need it.

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Racism, Stubborn Ignorance 

I'm obviously never going to be perfect and no one escapes childhood unscathed! But as I'm operating in the world, having experienced these shifts, it can only have a positive affect in the world if we believe we need to be the change we wish to see. I don't need to fight every battle when Mrs Vanilla says things that raise my eyebrows but I can float above it, remain unaffected, and actually be amused by it.

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Racism, Stubborn Ignorance 

I put my daughter in grade 1 public school this year... So, I'm confronted with the default world more now. It is difficult to not default to old habits as well without frequent role modelling; parenting on auto-pilot, repeating phrases from my own upbringing.
However I think paradigm shifts are irreversible and mine have been namely attachment parenting, unschooling, and ethical non-monogamy.

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Racism, Stubborn Ignorance 

I'm incredibly lucky to have surrounded myself with progressive-minded folks. I homeschooled my daughter and have met the kindest, most inclusive parents and their children with whom I've had rich, meaningful conversations which feel like they could change the world. E.g. one lesbian couple is raising their 3 children gender neutral! Everyone is different but all are accepting. Differences are approached with willingness to learn.
In the sexy world it's very similar.

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Racism, Stubborn Ignorance 

The previous time we drank with them I learned how she feels about the sex ed the 12 y/o boys are getting in school and how ridiculous the consent stuff is, "I don't want anyone to ask to kiss me - just fucking do it!"
They did sensitivity training at their son's hockey, "They, them, whatever. You can only be one person at a time!" "What's wrong with saying guys? I say guys all the time. I'm too old to change now." "I don't say you're retarded. I say that's retarded."

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Racism, Stubborn Ignorance 

Partner has a friendship with a couple, Vanillas, because their sons are bestfriends. It is convenient to swap kid-watching with them. This weekend we have their son while they go to a wedding.
They came over for dinner last night, stayed and drank, 5 kids in the house, chaos after my quiet day. The Wife is having a rough time as her father is dying too slowly and she's drinking 1L wine daily. I was treated to an unapologetic racist rant about those fucking Muslims!

Think about the secret messages that might have been written inside the cover to send good vibes to those employing it.

And ffs take off your shoes and have some respect... But if you forget that's cool because it means more $$ for the maker 😁

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Next time you're at the sex club, fucking on a huge vinyl bed, spare a thought for everyone whose passion it is to create and maintain that space.

Think about how your action is benefiting many humble folks. Your pleasure-adventure creates a ripple effect.

Think about how much joy you might be bringing to the person who made the cushion to know that it's being put to good use, and she might even be watching you christen it! 😏

Sexuality 

·Thankfully Other Woman gives Partner an ultimatum and he makes the right choice (me.)
·We decide to play together instead of separately and go to Sex Club ·All Night Orgy ·Confirms we like group sex and it enhances our relationship
·Get on Craigslist and swingTowns and make lots of sexy friends ·Host and attend parties
·Get choosier and pickier, slowdown, focus on socializing. 7 month dry spell. Exploring some BDSM.
·Sex is our Hobby & Sport

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Sexuality 

·I tell Partner I want to date someone else. He misunderstands... Meets or rekindles with Other Woman out of spite, without the ethical knowledge I have gathered.
·We have 3sum with my Other Man and then Partner sleeps with Other Woman the very next day. Too much too soon, I try to be cool but end up reacting very badly and he hates the whole experience of dating 2 women too. And my Other Man -awesome communicator w/ kink past- isn't interested in dating me because our goals don't align

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Sexuality 

·Had probably talked to Partner about group sex. Had to change his view of "you don't marry the girl you gang bang." 😂 Gave him permission to explore fantasies.
·Exhub was arrested for sexual assault (trial pending) the interview mentioned the complainant had "polyamorous" on her profile
·At some point my cousin mentions he's doing "the poly thing."
·I listen to podcasts like and

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Sexuality 

·Left. Stayed celibate 5 months. Learned about codependency, addiction, narcissism, trust, vulnerability, non violent communication
·Met current partner because I was ready to fuck without getting sucked into a relationship!
·Got sucked into a relationship
·Met a decade+ old friend who used to love and want a baby with me, mentioned he's an aromantic polysexual attracted to "open ppl" *like me* (we'd had a 3sum way back) ·My eyes opened a bit
·Event chronology get hazy at this point...

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Sexuality 

Origin story:
·Interest in sex from age 5
·Cheated on 1st "real" love / Terrified of being trapped forever / craved variety
·Adventurous adolescence, confused with depression / self-destructiveness
·Settled into serial monogamy, determined bisexuality
·Obtained abusive boyfriend to confirm how shameful I had been
·Left, had slightly adventurous mid-20s. 3sums yay!
·Interest in Swinging mentioned to ex-hub before we became exclusive shot down immediately.
·Passionless decade ensued.

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