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Racism, Stubborn Ignorance 

Partner has a friendship with a couple, Vanillas, because their sons are bestfriends. It is convenient to swap kid-watching with them. This weekend we have their son while they go to a wedding.
They came over for dinner last night, stayed and drank, 5 kids in the house, chaos after my quiet day. The Wife is having a rough time as her father is dying too slowly and she's drinking 1L wine daily. I was treated to an unapologetic racist rant about those fucking Muslims!

Racism, Stubborn Ignorance 

The previous time we drank with them I learned how she feels about the sex ed the 12 y/o boys are getting in school and how ridiculous the consent stuff is, "I don't want anyone to ask to kiss me - just fucking do it!"
They did sensitivity training at their son's hockey, "They, them, whatever. You can only be one person at a time!" "What's wrong with saying guys? I say guys all the time. I'm too old to change now." "I don't say you're retarded. I say that's retarded."

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Racism, Stubborn Ignorance 

I'm incredibly lucky to have surrounded myself with progressive-minded folks. I homeschooled my daughter and have met the kindest, most inclusive parents and their children with whom I've had rich, meaningful conversations which feel like they could change the world. E.g. one lesbian couple is raising their 3 children gender neutral! Everyone is different but all are accepting. Differences are approached with willingness to learn.
In the sexy world it's very similar.

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Racism, Stubborn Ignorance 

I put my daughter in grade 1 public school this year... So, I'm confronted with the default world more now. It is difficult to not default to old habits as well without frequent role modelling; parenting on auto-pilot, repeating phrases from my own upbringing.
However I think paradigm shifts are irreversible and mine have been namely attachment parenting, unschooling, and ethical non-monogamy.

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I'm obviously never going to be perfect and no one escapes childhood unscathed! But as I'm operating in the world, having experienced these shifts, it can only have a positive affect in the world if we believe we need to be the change we wish to see. I don't need to fight every battle when Mrs Vanilla says things that raise my eyebrows but I can float above it, remain unaffected, and actually be amused by it.

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Racism, Stubborn Ignorance 

My life is largely drama-free but I find myself drama-adjacent... And it tickles me sometimes to see how people battle themselves, stuck in closed-minded beliefs, limited by valueless priorities. And I don't feel any anxiety about a sense of duty to make e eryone see the light or what I consider right. They'll get it when and if they are ready and need it.

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